so i’ve managed to stick my foot in my mouth a time or two during this whole wedding planning process.
but before we get into that can we just take a moment to freak out about the fact that we’re less than two weeks away from the big day? i’ve had my share of being stressed out about getting things done before the wedding, but i’m just now starting to feel the butterflies that seem to accompany any major life milestone. not the ‘we might be making a mistake’ butterflies, to be clear, but the ‘this is a huge, once-in-a-lifetime event so enjoy every moment of it’ butterflies.
so, about the foot-in-the-mouth syndrome. there have been a few instances of me doing exactly what i swore up and down and sideways that i would not do for robert and i’s wedding. isn’t that how it always works? oh father, i must confess my double-speaking sins.
for starters, i said i would never, ever, ever, ever have a strapless wedding dress. and even though i was the kind of girl who had never envisioned her wedding before getting engaged, i’m pretty sure the decision to have a dress with some sort of strap or sleeve function was made years before i even met robert. i don’t have much to go on in the bosom department and have never been able to wear anything strapless without tugging at it every 30 seconds, and i did NOT want to be doing that for the duration of my wedding day.
well, guess what? everyone who said strapless wedding dresses have so much boning that they don’t move and are altered within an inch of your life was right. the boning was enough to make me give after discovering i didn’t like any of the be-strapped dresses i tried on. i can’t show you the dress here because robert is adamant about not seeing it before the big day, but i can tell you it’s from casablanca (which doubles as a movie that i love) and was a part of the company’s 2009 fall collection (and is described on their website as ‘for your bride who has simple taste — yep, that’s me). the bit about strapless dresses being altered within an inch of your life turned out to be especially true and has caused me a bit of concern for my ability to get down and funky at the reception. but it’s too late to do anything about that now other than a strict routine of counting weight watchers’ points these next two weeks and perhaps a spanx purchase.
the second thing i swore — well, we swore — was that we wouldn’t do something just because it’s what everyone else has done or because ‘it’s what you do at a wedding.’ if we didn’t like it or see the point, it was omitted or replaced. monogrammed napkins? scrapped. bouquet toss? gone with the wind. we thought we’d get away without having a cake because we preferred pie or cookies.
well, according to my dear mother, you cannot have a wedding without cake. for the record, i disagree with this — the only things you really need for a wedding are a bride, groom (or two brides or two grooms if your state isn’t as discriminatory as tennessee), state-approved officiant and a marriage license. but even though my mom couldn’t give us a good reason for having a cake when we already had plans for 21 pies, we yielded (protesting, nonetheless) because i love my mom and the wedding isn’t completely about robert and i, especially since she’s paying for many pieces of the wedding. so instead of having a wedding cake or a groom’s cake we’ll be having a mother of the bride cake, but in the great compromise of the wedding it will look like a cake. so if you enjoy cake at the wedding, thank my mom, but please do try the chocolate pie.
pie dessert labels
the final instance of foot in the mouth, at least that i can think of, is the case of crafting. i said i would not allow myself to get bogged down in wedding-related crafts. if it was necessary, it could be bought, rented or borrowed. if it couldn’t be bought, rented or borrowed for a reasonable price or effort, it went the way of the bouquet toss.
now before you think i’m anti-DIY, let me specify that i love handmade things and a number of my friends are DIY queens and i love them for it. i just don’t enjoy doing crafts under pressure unless they’re means to very necessary ends. i also have watched too many friends stress themselves out by taking on too many crafts and projects before their wedding, and with my ridiculous work schedule time already wasn’t on my side. finally and probably most importantly, i didn’t want to fall into the trap of an overstyled, overdone wedding which seems to be more and more the norm in today’s wedding industry, and one which i think is ridiculous. if our wedding turns out to be particularly stylish, i can assure you it will be by complete accident and through no effort of my own.
anyway, so i guess you can already guess that i’ve done some crafts. BUT, in my defense, almost all crafts i did were a means to a necessary end, and if i was going to do something then i at least wanted it to look nice. the only thing i worked on for the sake of decor and not function was our table centerpieces, and even that’s been a group effort. robert and i, some bridesmaids and my parents have been saving spaghetti, salsa and jelly jars for the past year to serve as candleholders. to add a little more flare, i concocted the following decor out of vintage postcards found on ebay that kind of serendipitously tied together our save the date postcards, our train station venue and our love for travel.
all the postcards shoved into the same jar
i suppose designing the invitations myself was a bit of a diy craft. i also felt it would be useful for our guests to know what kind of options they had in the pie department, hence the little pie labels seen earlier in the post. we’ll also be having a photobooth for our guests that will serve as a sort of favor for them/guestbook for us, but i wanted to make sure they actually knew that we were expecting them to fill out our guestbook with their goofy photobooth photos, so i spray painted a picture frame and photoshopped up some instructions. i also spray painted some tin flower pots that will hold things during the reception. spray paint and the accompanying second-hand high has been a big part of my weekend.
the photobooth instructions and some flower pots turned silverware holders
the thing i’m most proud of in the craft department is that this is the extent of what i’ve done, and with 13 days to go i’m done with all of them, except for filling the jars with candles and sand, which is a project i’m saving for myself and my bridesmaids for a few days before the wedding (lucky them!) with a week to go before i ditch knoxvegas and jet to memphis, i can focus on the last little bit of important things like getting our marriage license (we’re going tuesday!) and packing for the honeymoon (what, have i not mentioned where we’re going? i guess i’ll get to that in the next post).